Do you feel as though your partner is sabotaging your diet? If so, be aware that you’re far from alone. Whether intentional or not, those people closest to us in our lives are commonly behind the biggest obstacles we face in our efforts to lose weight.
That said, just because your partner is sabotaging your diet, it doesn’t mean that you need to be a victim of it. Instead, you need to know what to say and how to handle it properly. That way, you can make the problem go away but keep your relationship in good health.
The first thing you need to remember when you think your partner is sabotaging your diet is that he or she doesn’t wish you ill. The odds are that they aren’t doing what they’re doing to make you fail. Instead, they’re likely trying to share with you, do what they think is practical (for instance, saving money with the meal for 2 deal), or stop you from depriving yourself because they want you to be happy. That piece of cake that you feel is unnecessary empty calories is just one more sign of deprivation to your partner, who wants you to enjoy life.
Dealing with the situation isn’t always as easy as it could otherwise seem. Requests for support may already have been ignored. You can feel as though your partner doesn’t care when that’s actually not the case. Use the following to help cope with this tricky issue:
· Reassure your partner that you don’t mind eating different foods and that it’s completely okay if he or she wants to eat something. If your partner wants to eat a snack but you don’t, that shouldn’t get in the way of his or her enjoyment of that snack. The same goes for that dessert after every meal. That’s your partner’s choice. Your partner can still eat what he or she enjoys even if you won’t be having it, too.
· Get rid of the food traps. If your partner has been stocking your pantry with foods you find very tempting but that you feel will ruin your progress, donate it, give it away or throw it out. By eating it, you’ll be upset with yourself and upset with your partner. If you get rid of it, then you’ve removed the problem altogether.
· Talk to your supportive friends and family members. If you don’t feel that your partner isn’t giving you the support you need, find it elsewhere. You have other people in your life and there are sure to be several of them who will be happy to give you a pat on the back when you achieve a goal and who will help to get you back on track if you stumble.